We've been given many items to grieve during these pandemic years. We aren't going to grovel in them, but let's do notice that groveling has a sister called denial. Either way the grief we carry begins to have its way, eating at us greater than we need to because we can't talk about it at all or because we can't stop thinking of it.
Whether it was loss of a dream for business, death of an esteemed colleague, beloved parent or long-time friend, or the simpler losses of re-tooling one's lifestyle to fit with new reality, we all have our griefs, and we are connected to and perhaps bear some responsibility for multiple people carrying theirs.
A bit over ten years ago, my wife Lorie and I wrote a book touching on our approach to managing long-term suffering as hope-filled people. It's touched a lot of people across these years and might be useful even now -- perhaps for someone you know who is trying to find their way.
Another resource that might be useful is the free, curated blog I put together a couple of years after Lorie died. It tells a bit of the journey up and out of the utter darkness when one's world is shattered, and what helped me live beyond it.
Some folks need to talk with a friend. Others need a community around them. Others need space. Perhaps it is a unpredictable mixture for still others. Regardless, being able to stand at a distance and observe the journey another has taken can be medicinal in its own way.
Peace to anyone reading this as you carry grief into the future, wherever you are in the process of finding it become part of your strength.
Themes like these are of special concern to Maestro-level leaders who watch over enterprises and need to be whole and intentional leaders themselves. Our friends at WiLD are excellent for setting baselines and tracking progress. And, if your are one such person, of course we'd love to talk to you about joining a Maestro-level leader cohort.
Tags:Lorie L. Vincent, Mark L. Vincent, Design Group International, leiomyosarcoma, Maestro-level Leaders, The Third Turn Podcast, Kristin Evenson
February 3, 2022