Here is a recent exchange with my class I'm currently teaching for CLA's Online Academy regarding executive leadership (FYI - the next round of classes are about to start!). It is brief but I thought it worthy of a larger audience.
"I'm working with a couple of leaders now who are waking up to their influence.
It seems that the first 10-20 years of our career we are so busy demonstrating our competence and trying to achieve, that we don't notice when a tipping point is reached and others are now looking to us to see their competence and achievements -- and to help them be compentent and to achieve. Their attention to what we say becomes more rapt, more influential, more crucial.
- This should lead us to say fewer and more impactful words.
- This should lead us to listen far more than we do and to listen in ways that offer full attention, complete presence and affirmation.
If we don't make the adjustment, the alternative outcome is that we will speak louder and faster to try to persuade people to love us while they roll their eyes, sigh and mutter under their breath!"