Part of a series on Board Bullying:
I have seen a number of cases where a person bullied in one board or business environment becomes (or is) the bully in another environment – whether another board, a church, an organization, or even at home. It is surprisingly common.
In these cases, the person often doesn’t realize they are bullying: they think they are doing the right thing. They often have a self-perception as being the one bullied, so they don’t see what they are doing as similar.
Consider the list of bullying behavior in this recent post. Does any of it fit you? If you fit both the categories of bully and bullied, it may be hard to disentangle the pain and the behavior all by yourself.
Nevertheless, there are ways forward. I have found one particular method to be the most effective: instead of merely avoiding doing the particular bullying behaviors you see in others, think instead toward what kinds of attitudes, perspectives and interactions you want to have toward others. Work toward the positive actions, rather than merely avoiding the negative ones. This will often root out the underlying issues that cause you to actually bully in return, when given the chance.
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